We often hear people say that nobody’s perfect.
Yet we spend so much time worrying about how our flaws are exposed for others to see, and how others might judge us for them.
But there are so many famous people with huge flaws. And they are loved by so many. It’s almost as if their imperfections make them inspirational. So the notion that our flaws devalue us in the eyes of others is a myth.
When it comes to our flaws, the reality is that people judge others based on how they carry those imperfections in their own minds.
Do they surrender to these imperfections and become self-pitiful? Or do they embrace the love for live refgardless?
Imagine two people both with a crooked smile. One laughs freely with no self-reservation as he don’t even feel a hint that people will judge him based on his smile. And the other hides behind closed lips as he feels ashamed and embarrassed that he does not have a standard smile.
Which one will more likely draw a positive response from others? It’s not the crooked smile itself but the confidence, or lack of it, that shapes how people respond. Because people can see and sense what is a genuine smile, what is authentic, and what is reserved.
And the thing with reserved expressions is that people just won’t know what kind of person behind that facade. And thus become reserved as well.
Our imperfections are like cracks in a vase. Cracks don’t ruin the vase. They tell the story behind it. But if we allow those cracks to define who we are, even with the mere thought of it, we invite judgment because we show that we are affected by the potential of fear or shame.
When we accept ourselves fully, imperfections and all, others feel safe to accept us too. Because let’s admit it. If you cannot accept yourself, then how do you expect others to accept you. Self-acceptance shines a light that makes our cracks sparkle instead of crack.
Perfection is overrated. In real like, perfect is boring and impossible. Be real, relatable, and honest.
When someone embraces their own shortcomings without apology, it says “I’m comfortable being me”. This makes others more comfortable to make a connection. On the other hand, if someone constantly battles their flaws or hides them with anger or defensiveness, it says “I’m uncomfortable”. And that discomfort just repels people away like magnets of similar poles.
Self-perception matters more than the actual flaw. Our minds can turn tiny freckles into mountains or small mistakes into disasters. In fact, we spend too much time doing that.
When we judge ourselves harshly, others pick up on that tension of a civil war within us. It’s like wearing a sign that says “Handle with care” instead of simply being seen as human. In this way, judgment isn’t really about us. It’s about what we communicate through our own attitude toward ourselves.
Think of it like this. If life gave out trophies for how gracefully we handle our imperfections, some people would be winning gold medals daily. They’re not flawless, but they are able to laugh at themselves and keep walking. Their ability to not take themselves too seriously makes them magnetic.
After all, who wants to hang out with someone who’s always polished but never real? Or talking to a persona rather than a person?
Stop worrying about what others think of your flaws. Start caring about how you perceive them in your own mind. When you stop rejecting your every flaw and instead learn to accept them as nobody is perfect, you become authentically congruent.
You don’t need fixing. You need embracing.
So next time you catch yourself berating yourself harshly, remember that it’s not the imperfection that knocks you down. It’s how you knock yourself down in your mind.
Nobody can be perfect all the time.